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It's All About The Order Of Your Actions
It’s the order you do things that makes the difference!
Do you walk straight into an elevator full of people when the doors open up?
Do you drive with a completely empty fuel tank, to get your petrol?
Do you write a cheque and then put that money into your account?
Do you pack your bags and then decide where you’ll go for a holiday?
Do you learn a new piece of information and then work out how to use it?
The answers are obvious aren’t they? It is the order of actions that is important. An action must have meaning. There is always a first action that gets the ball rolling, but it is what you do next that will enable the ball to roll in a straight line.
The same goes for fixing or changing a relationship or yourself.
The general population, when in crisis, will look for answers before they even know the exact questions. They look for ideas before they truly consider their goals. Most of us just know there is something wrong, and look for something different, to test out whether it will be better. From personal experience, I know that trying out different things without discovering your purpose or considering your true goals is an exercise that will bring the same problem back again.
I believe the reason for this, is that our problems are created by us, and us alone. It is our choices, our feelings and emotions, & our reactions, that determine our results. So no matter if it is business or personal, the results will be determined by the SELF.
And as we cannot change another person, although many do try, we can really only change ourselves. This is where Personal Development begins.
No you do not have to move to Nimbin and become a hippy. You just need to learn more about yourself and the reasons why you do what you do, say what you say, and react the way that you react.
So how does one get onto the path of Self Development? Most people will read a book. Try to gather ideas, and try to put them into action. For a small few, this has a positive effect. For the rest of us, we are not ready to take-in this information.
Let me explain:
For example, Mary decides that she needs guidance and Self Development, so she enrolls in a very well-known Self Development Seminar. She knows of many people who do this seminar time and time again, and she believes that it is worth her money and time.
Mary arrives, bright and early, ready to take notes, and listen to every word that comes out of the presenter’s mouth. She is eager to make some changes; she will do whatever the presenter suggests.
The seminar begins; Mary is listening intently and trying to understand everything. There is a lot of information to take in, and she is furiously taking notes. By the end of the day, Mary is very tired; her brain is full and has been working very hard. She feels inspired and is ready to get a great night’s sleep and get back into her seat first thing in the morning for the second day of the program.
By morning tea on the second day, Mary’s brain has stopped processing; she is now drifting off into planning and dreaming mode. Her brain just cannot take anymore. And here lies the key to this story. We will come back to this point.
Mary finishes the seminar, she is tired, but happy, the past two days have been very positive and inspiring. She goes back to her life the next day, and can you guess what happens? Nothing changes, she is thinking, feeling, reacting, etc exactly the way she was before the seminar.
The reason for this is that her conscious mind decided to do the seminar, without consultation with her sub-conscious mind. If Mary had the tools to communicate with her sub-conscious mind, it would have told her that; it is not ready to make any immediate changes, it is not going to get involved with the seminar’s information, and therefore it will not be of much use, other than instructions for later, if she takes exceptional notes, and uses them when and if the sub-conscious mind is ready.
Now this may sound absurd, but if the sub-conscious mind is not involved, then the information stays as just that, information. It never really gets passed the front door of your mind. If the sub-conscious is ready to use the information, you will know, when you start getting emotional about that information. That is the signal to you, that it has been allowed in passed the front door and into the home of your mind. Now that the information has been useful, there is a much larger probability that you will change some of your actions and reactions, feelings and emotions.
You may not go to a seminar, you may read a book, talk to a therapist or a coach, but if you are getting brain overload, and no emotional response to the information presented to you, then it is not working.
So you may be wanting to know, how do you communicate with you sub-conscious mind. There are many ways to do this; some are more involved than others. The most important thing to remember, is to find a coach who, whatever method they use, connects with you and helps you to reach into your sub-conscious and gives you solid and easy methods for resolving issues that have been imbedded in you sub-conscious for a very long time. If you can get resolution, then you can read the books, attend the seminars and get all of the information you require to help you move in the direction that you wish to go.
Change seems so difficult, but it is only a hidden limiting belief in your sub-conscious that is making you feel that change is difficult. Take away the power of that limiting belief and you will be free to make the changes you want to make.
An action must have meaning. There is always a first action that gets the ball rolling, but it is what you do next that will enable the ball to roll in a straight line.
Remember this statement from the beginning of the article.
This is the path that most people take. Without truly discovering what the problem is and where it is coming from.
First action = recognition that there is a problem.
Second action = find a possible solution.
I recommend that we all do it this way.
First Action = recognition that there is a problem.
Second Action = Self Discovery; to find the source of the problem.
Third Action = find a solution.
I recommend for all people who want to find the correct solution the first time that they search, to spend a little time discovering where the problem came from, remembering that we all create our own problems, so we are all able to source the problem (sometimes with a little help), and we are all able to find the correct solution, the first time.
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